Yoga pants vs. pants pants – the mom debate


The other day I was walking through the mall with my 3-year-old daughter when she stopped dead in her tracks and said, “Mommy! What is THAT?!?” I looked around thinking maybe she had a random November Easter Bunny sighting, but, no, my sweet little girl had spotted an extra-special blouse! My heart smiled, and I said, “Baby girl, that’s velvet, do you want to go touch it?” Immediately she ran over, stroked the fabric, looked up and said: “Can I have some velvet too?” That's my girl!

We don’t get much fall weather in Houston, so at the time, I hadn’t broken out my own stash of velvet for her to see, but our mini-fashion moment got me something thinking. Not only, had I not broken out my fall clothes, but I hadn't gotten "dressed" in something other than yoga pants or ratty jeans for quite a while.

Over the next few days, I started looking through my closet and found it. Years ago I made a bit of a splurge on an intricately (and colorfully) embroidered velvet cardigan – BINGO! I paired it with a flowy camisole (because this Mama is not ready for any body-conscious clothing), and threw on my favorite boyfriend jeans. While I certainly wasn't ready for the Met ball, I looked in the mirror and thought, "Hey, that's not half bad!"

Since having kids, it feels like I don’t know how to dress myself most of the time. Of course, I know how to physically put on clothes (one leg at a time, right?), but assembling an actual “outfit” has a very real way of baffling me. I think the combination of wearing maternity pants or being pregnant/just having had a baby for the better part of six years (give or take) has left me feeling quite unsure of what to wear.

To quote one of my all-time favorite ladies, “I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."

Audrey Hepburn was a devoted mother, celebrated actress, and a fashion icon. On even my most frenzied days I still love the bright fuchsia drapes in our living room, dance down the aisles of the grocery store (really ... I do), kiss my children a hundred times before lunch and know that giving up is never an option. So, while putting on an outfit doesn't inherently make me any more beautiful, it does give me something to smile about ... and happiness is contagious.

Jordan Schupbach is a mother of three living in the Houston area. She blogs at - sharing the good, the bad and the frenzied.


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